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Saturday, July 31, 2010

Wedding Jitters


(Just as a side note: this video is currently my favorite Youtube MV. That is saying alot because I have seen many!)

A good friend of mine told me I have a messed up view of marriage. I appreciate her comment because I agree. I KNOW I don't understand this sacred institution called marriage.

Often when couples announce their engagements, I cringe. I instantly envision them five or six years down the road; they are bickering and yelling. The wife is upset that her husband spends more time in front of the TV than with her. The husband is complaining that his wife complains too much.

I am not sharing this to proclaim that singleness is more rewarding than marriage. I won't make that confession. I know that you learn more about yourself when you are committed to another human being in an intimate contract.

I am simply revealing that I get wedding jitters for all those couples who take the plunge. I get cold feet. I fear they will lose themselves. I fear he will leave her. I fear he will find he never really knew her. I fear they will break their covenant.

Marriage is a mystery to me. Unfortunately, this means the gospel is also a mystery to me. The Bible begins and ends with a wedding. God is trying to teach me about His plan for marriage. I am not the best pupil.

I have witnessed a tainted version of marriage in our culture. I have seen hearts broken and shattered. I have seen contracts broken with very little effort to save them.

I know God loves marriage because He calls Himself a bridegroom. But, I have NO idea what that means. I love the sound of it, but I don't have any idea what I am confessing. Through loyalty and faithfulness, Jesus will allure His unfaithful wife. There is going to be a wedding and there is going to be a feast. When that day comes, I hope I don't have wedding jitters.

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