Submission is a Curse

To the woman He said, "I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you will bring forth children; yet your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
Genesis 3:16

I strongly encourage wives to be submissive to their husbands because the Bible clearly states this is obedience to God. Unfortunately, the majority of the Christian culture assumes women should enjoy being submissive. Being submissive is not an enjoyable task; it is a part of the curse.

Men are not expected to love tending a garden that is full of thistles. Men are not expected to enjoy hard work and toil. However, men ARE expected to work the ground even though they will moan during the process.

Women should have the same right to moan. Women are called to submit, but this submission is a curse! It is the punishment women bare due to Eve's tasting of the fruit.

I believe some Christian women think they must enjoy and love the action of submission. The reality of the situation causes most women to struggle through submission. Just like men hate sweating and breaking their backs, women hate feeling less superior.

I completely praise women who long to live Proverbs 31 and Ephesians 5:22. Such a wife is praiseworthy. However, becoming this woman is a process. It takes sacrifice and perseverance. A woman who has cultivated the ability to submit has also endured hardship and emotional strife.

I am not writing this to scold anyone. I am simply giving women the freedom to struggle, and suffer through the act of submission. If you learn to find peace and safety while submitting, I am excited for you! I simply want every women to acknowledge they bare a curse. I don't expect women to love submission. I want Christian women to have the freedom to cry and moan.